Ask A Healer Inner Child Healing Series
Spiritual Ceremony for The Inner Child
by N J Howell
Healing the Wounds of the Past
Reclaiming Your Original Essence
Are you struggling to release the past? If so the spiritual ceremony of release on this page may help. This healing ritual is just one tool that has been helpful
to myself and to others, in working to release anger,
pain and other difficult emotions that can hinder
growth and progress. However, it is not meant to replace any needed
psychological counseling or mental health help that
might be needed.
If you have mental or emotional imbalances
that are effecting your ability to function normally,
please see a qualified counselor of your choosing to help.
Releasing anger and rage over events in your past: One of the most valuable healing release exercises I've ever
tried involves processing past hurts through the ceremonial ritual
of release. It may be that you, like me, have used such spiritual
tools before. Yet, I would encourage you to explore the particular scripting used in this
ceremony of release.
I found that the three-part process I'll be sharing
made a difference, even though I had done
similar types of exercises before.
This spiritual ceremony involves writing a letter to each person
who abused you, whether verbally, mentally,
emotionally, physically or spiritually. The degree
of abuse doesn't matter. If you felt violated, then
it abused your essence. If you harbor any feelings
of bitterness, resentment, hurt, anger or fear as
a result, then it can eventually damage your Spirit
and your body.
And when I use the words "spiritual ceremony" or
"healing ritual" I do so
deliberately, to denote that there should be an
attitude of spiritual attention and intention when you decide to
facilitate this release for yourself. Dedicate time,
pray or meditate to get yourself centered, calm,
and focused. Give adequate intent and attention
to the process and acknowledge it as important
enough to command time set aside specifically
for the ceremony.
In this letter of healing and release, you are not nice.
You let it fly. You don't hold anything back because
it is the thing we hold back that gets trapped in
our cellular make-up and causes manifestations
like weight gain and chronic fatique, depression, etc. ugh to handle our most ugly, angry
and hateful feelings, and to help us heal them thru
safe expression without guilt.
Please note that the purpose of this full out expression
is NOT retaliation or revenge or any type of negative
projection. It is for you and you alone. It is an allowing
of your feelings, however out of balance they might be
at the time, in Sacred Space, so that you can know
yourself, express yourself and move thru unresolved
So, how do you avoid guilt in this situation? What's important is to set your intent beforehand that
you want to let go of whatever unexpressed feelings you
might still be unconsciously carrying. And that you are
not projecting them toward the person in any kind
of vindictive way but giving them up to Spirit, in
an honest confession of your true feelings. more on addressing guilt.
Finish these three statements in each letter:
1. This is what you did:
2. This is how what I felt, in response to what you did:
3. This is how I have allowed what you did
to affect my life:
When you have finished all the letter(s),
get a fireproof container, at a time when you can
be alone and create a Sacred Space by smudging,
prayers, etc. and burn each letter, releasing it all
back to God. Use your voice with this ceremony, as a powerful self-affirmation of your intent.
You may use the words I've provided below, or words of your own
choosing, to set your spiritual intent to heal the
past, at the time that you burn the letters:
I now release all agreements I may have made,
to hold suffering and to receive abuse.
I now choose healthy relationships and release all
behaviors, emotions and beliefs around any
idea that I deserve or caused abuse.
I release all negative behaviors that have resulted
from this abuse. I embrace my life and intend into
my life, joy, peace, love and respect.
I love and respect myself and choose to live my life
as loved and respected. I draw to me those who
will support this decision to heal, and to experience
more joy, love, peace and respect in my life.
I allow the natural course of feelings to express to the
point of forgiveness and healing, at my soul's best
speed of healing.
I am gentle with myself as I learn how to live in a
space of love and self-respect.
It is complete. I accept my healing into every cell
of my body. I AM. I AM Healed.
It will be important to focus on what feelings
and adjustments you want to bring into your
life, to fill the empty space left by releasing
what was there before so take some time to image-in what you want to fill those newly lightened and healed spaces within you.
It's also important to realize that, even though you have indeed
healed yourself, it will take time for the new behaviors and ways
of living to establish themselves so don't be dismayed if it appears
you still feel wounded for a time. That is normal.
Spend time in
meditation and prayer, and get healing
or body work as often as you can. Make
yourself and your healing a priority.
Also, consider inner child healing with a
healer or counselor you trust.
Each person is different and has different
needs so I'd suggest just going to both
pages and seeing what feels right to you
at this time in your life.
And finally, remember that each person who has hurt you is a Divine Being of Light that
made choices out of alignment with that Light. There can be a release of blame and you can begin
to see that their choices were about them and not you.
Too often, when we are hurt or betrayed or rejected by someone else, we consciously or unconsciously believe that
the hurt, betrayal rejection or other painful action is somehow indicative of our true worth as a being. It isn't about you.
It's about the other person and their issues and struggles.
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Emotional Health Disclaimer: The information within this spiritual ceremony is designed to help you heal the past and release anger and rage that may be hindering you from the fullness of life. However, abuse can cause
tremendous mental and emotional imbalance over time so it's vital to get the professional counseling you need, in addition to whatever spiritual work you do on your own. Healing the past is so vital to living your life with joy that I hope
you make this a priority for yourself. Your family will be blessed, as will all with whom you come in contact.