Ask A Healer Spiritual Wellness Series

Spiritual Mastery over Negative People
© Neva J Howell, All Rights Reserved

Question on spiritual healing:
How do I deal with negative people in my life and keep them from bringing me down too?

Healing facilitation response:
Regarding people operating from and feeding off negative energy, avoiding them or blocking their energies all the time are only temporary although sometimes absolutely necessary solutions. It's perfect correct to retreat when feeling overwhelmed by the negative energy of another person and it's a mistake to think that really fixes the issue in any spiritually masterful way.

What can be learned is how to allow those energies to meet the Divine Godforce energy flowing thru you and when that happens, there will be no further need to block or avoid.

It is experiential, this shift in consciousness. The way you discover it is by taking action and observing the results.

To begin, start reminding yourself that Universal Lifeforce Energy is limitless. Therefore, if you are feeling drained it has to be due to offering, usually unconsciously, your own life energy to the negative people in your life who feed on it. Refuse to place yourself in the victim vibration. Remind yourself that you have access to a limitless supply of Godforce energy and offer only that.

As you begin to notice the moment you allow your energy to meet the energy of a negative person and form a partnership, usually an emotional partnership based on guilt, shame, fear or ego needs, a shift in consciousness that will allow you to become aware of yourself as a clear, open vessel thru which unconditional love flows outward. Nothing can drain that; nothing negative can long endure in the presence of that.

If a negative energy effects us, it is because of a resonant negativity within ourselves that needs to be cleared, we have decided that we are alone in facing it or we have something our ego needs out of the continued dysfunctional interaction.

When I say this to my partners in healing, sometimes I encounter angry responses. For example, if someone is in an abusive situation, it's hard for them to believe they resonate with that. And it's hard for me to see how they could avoid resonation.

Abuse installs a pattern of belief, at a cellular level, especially if repetitive over time, which is usually the case.

This imbedded belief system is literally in the cells which is what makes it so hard to recognize it and shift it sometimes and why that same shift can happen so rapidly once we do shine the light of awareness into ourselves.

Our body has a physiological response to being violated and that is cellular. The body response becomes part of the emotional and mental response and it often takes years of self-healing to change those patterns.

Although abuse is a severe form of manipulation that can affect our energy field, at a more subtle level any negative energy seeking to create negative response is abusive and can set up a belief system and partnership that continues uninterrupted until awareness is brought into the situation.

The truth is that something within us draws our experience, always.

We may not be abusers or actively want abuse but if we are unconscious of the way belief systems were set in us early on by abuse, we function at levels of fear, protection, and confusion.

The vibration, or sound waves of energy, that emanate from us are from that bandwidth so it tends to affirm what we walk each day in fear of encountering. We draw what we fear.

Additionally, if we allow ourselves to slip into any kind of vibration that is within the same bandwidth with abuse (this can include judgment, bitterness, unresolved anger, fear, etc.), we become far more attractive to potential abusers, vibrationally speaking. A wild animal can sense fear. The abuser is a wild animal, truly.

If we forget what flows thru us, we begin allowing our personal energy to be drained by negative people and events. If we wander into fear and out of love, we drain our own personal energy trying to protect or guard ourselves and are also cut off from source, a more stressful situation than the former.

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Health Disclaimer: Nothing in this article should be seen as representing any replacement for proper mental health and emotional health evaluation and treatment if you have been abused. Abuse can affect every aspect of your life and the results are far-reaching so please seek the proper support for your healing if in an abusive situation or suffering from the residual effect of childhood abuse.