How to Stop Feeling Guilty
Releasing guilt thoughts and shame

Do you suffer from feeling guilty?

Remember that old gospel hymn, "Just as I am"?

It is a powerful song because it releases us from one of the biggest challenges of the human experience, guilt.

Guilt can be a helpful response if it triggers self-evaluation and inspection, resulting in behavior that is more in alignment with our higher purpose. However, if used that way, it should only last a few seconds before it is recognized and transformed into self-acceptance. Is that the case in your own life?

Handling guilt through self-acceptance is the subject of this spiritual wellness article.

....Self-Acceptance to Stop Feeling Guilty

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Question on spiritual development: I feel guilty. I feel guity a lot, about things I do and things I don't do. How do you deal with guilt?

Healing Facilitation response: Guilt, shame, regret, self-doubt and low self-esteem all have similar vibrational energy. They are basically the feeling of someone who struggles self-doubt and with self-acceptance.

I have certainly had my share of guilt, mostly over personal boundaries. As a healing facilitator, the demands of the work can overwhelm. If I didn't feel up to helping someone who asked me, I'd go into guilt.

Although it would have been right action to show compassion to each person who came to me for help, I was just beating myself up for not being selfless, and ended up resenting people. I spent precious lifeforce energy in resentment and guilt that I have since learned to channel into clarity, spiritual self-evaluation, and transformative thought.

However, when I looked at the situation without the emotional charge of guilt (I did this by practicing regular meditation, getting help from energetic healers who could help my body relax and release emotional stress, and walking out in nature to calm my mind and body tensions) I realized that it was because I valued the needs of someone else more than my own.

Once I recognized that, I began reminding myself that I was just as valuable as whomever was seeking my help and eventually, I believed it. At that point, it was easier weigh the situation clearly, determine my appropriate response, and to be better equiped to say no, if it was not in alignment with what I felt would be right action.

What is right action? I define right action as the choice most in alignment with ultimate good for all concerned. The person making the choice is included in that equation, along with all others in the situation. So often, in deciding on a course of action, we forget what is right for us.

Of course, I don't know what it is that you can't help doing. It may not have any parallel to what I went through but the solution could be the same.

Try...practicing regular meditation, getting help from energetic healers who could help your body relax and release emotional stress, and walking out in nature to calm your mind and body tensions

Also try loving yourself more. Speaking into the mirror each day (whether you feel stupid doing it or not, whether you believe it or not)

I love you
I accept you
I forgive you

Does this mean you keep doing something that is wrong or harmful to you? NO. It means you accept yourself, just as you are, which is what God does. From that base of self-love, self-acceptance, and forgiveness, you can begin to get clear enough in your mind to see the answer for yourself.

Think about it. Would you care about someone you condemned as unworthy of caring about? When you stay in guilt, that's basically what you are saying about yourself.

In order to hear yourself think, literally, and get to right action in the particular situation you are feeling guilty about, you have to first accept yourself where you are, in love and without judgment.

If God can do it, so can you. It just takes practice and discipline and the choice, which you can make for yourself right now, to respect, love and honor your own journey through life. Let he who is without guilt throw the first stone.....I don't know anyone who can, but we can all choose to pursue right action.

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Spiritual Health Disclaimer: This spiritual information is not given to replace needed mental health evaluation and treatment. If you experience feelings of self-hatred, self-loathing or guilt to the point that you might consider harming yourself or others, please seek professional mental health care, in addition to spiritual guidance.